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You’re Engaged! Now What?

You’re Engaged! Now What?

You’re Engaged! Now What?

Lauren Louise Photography

Last year on New Year’s Eve my life took an unexpected turn. What I thought was a casual holiday lunch date, with my boyfriend at the time, quickly turned into the moment I would start the process of planning the biggest party of my life along with the merging and creating of a new family.

With engagement season among us, my social media feeds are filled with guys on one knee and ring fingers with extra sparkle. So now that you’re engaged, what do you do next?

Enjoy the Day

First, enjoy the day! You and your fiancé will be surrounded by so much love and so many clinking glasses that you won’t have time to think about anything else. We chose to wait until the next day to post any updates on social media, allowing us to first share the news with our family and close friends who were all coming over for New Year’s Eve – and engagement celebrations that night.
Lauren Louise Photography

Length of Engagement

Deciding how long you would like to be engaged is another important step. Some couples decide to be engaged just long enough to save up for the next ring, while others choose based on the season they would like to tie the knot. We knew we wanted to enjoy the engagement and get married in the spring, so we set a day in May 2015 – one year and 5 months of engagement time. I normally suggest a yearlong engagement. This will give you enough time to nail down your preferred vendors and plan the wedding, honeymoon, bachelorette party, engagement party…. you get the picture.

Budget

Believe it or not, this determines everything. The budget of your wedding will affect everything from the guest list to the venue. Let your family decide what they are comfortable with contributing, then find ways to start saving your own money. We opened a joint savings account through Ally with a high interest rate and opted for a smaller guest list, allowing for more money to go into our honeymoon and venue.

Meet with Wedding Planners

Once your date and general location is decided upon, start researching and meeting wedding planners in the area, especially if you are someone who is easily overwhelmed by wedding plans. Your wedding planner will listen to you, get to know you as a couple, wrap their head around your style and budget, and present you with a clearer vision of your day. This person should make you feel at ease and take on wedding planning responsibilities that are difficult for you to juggle.

You're Engaged, Now What?

Most importantly, remember to fill the planning process with love and fun! Make decisions that are based in love and practicality and you’ll never go wrong.

Photo credit: Lauren Louise Photography – http://laurenlouisephotography.com
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Jenny of Jenny Does Weddings is a blogger, wedding planner, and stylist who can be found spending her weekdays blogging and her weekends’ thrifting.

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Jenny and Glen’s Love Story

Jenny and Glen’s Love Story

Jenny and Glen’s Love Story

Jenny and Ben's Love Story

Get to know a little bit more about Jenny at Jenny Does Weddings, and how she met her fiance, Glen!

Our love story may be a fairytale now, but it didn’t necessarily begin that way. Was it love at first sight? Absolutely. Out of all the classes I took in college and all the students I saw but never paid much attention to, I remember almost everything about the class we took together and how quickly I noticed Glen. His smile, his laugh, his voice, and his height were all pretty swoon worthy.

We didn’t officially meet until I opened my drunken mouth and asked one of his teammates if they knew each other. Had I ever spoken to him? Nope. But the next day, Glen walked right into classes and said, “Hey Jenny”. I then sat through an excruciatingly long 3 hour class and tried to calm the mini heart attack I was experiencing. After dropping my phone right in front of him and sprinting out the door, we began texting on a daily basis, sometimes right up to 4am.

Jenny and Glen's Love Story

We eventually ended up dating other people and after over a year of poor relationship decisions we starting talking again. We hung out with a group of my friends – it was awful. He was uncomfortable, I was newly single with no patience, and we didn’t speak for 2 weeks.

When my friend, now a bridesmaid, convinced me to reach out and give Glen a second chance, I asked him to pick the place and I met him on his stomping grounds. After a few beers I could see he was relaxed. I had butterflies multiplying at a rapid rate in my stomach and after our first kiss they never really stopped.

Photo: Lauren Louise Photography

Since that night we have been inseparable. We moved into our first apartment together after dating for 4 months and were engaged one year later.

It has been a whirlwind. If someone had told me my Junior year that signing up for Drugs and Society would change my life, I would seriously begin to question what exactly they were referring to. Our story reminds me that everything happens for a reason, and almost everything has to do with timing. We let our story unfold over time, never rushing, and never forcing a decision. Now we get to see how the rest of our lives together will unfold, and I couldn’t be more excited.

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Wedding Planning Questions Answered

Wedding Planning Questions Answered

Wedding Planning Questions Answered

Q: We don’t want a bartender, how do we display/chill the wine for 20 tables without breaking the bank, or how do we set up a drink station for the wine?

A: Generally when I have a couple who doesn’t want a bartender, we just put bottles of wine on each table, with the whites already chilled. For a table of 8-10 guests, I would generally put one red and one white wine on each table and guests can serve themselves a glass of whatever they would like! And it is far more convenient than getting up to go to a bar or waiting in line for their drink!

I would recommend having some extras as well, and having your servers replace empty bottles once they are finished. Or if you don’t want your guests drinking too much, two bottles at each table will definitely do the trick! The white wine always seems to stay chilled just fine but if you are worried, you can always provide individual ice buckets at each table for the whites. Personally, I think you’re fine without them though.

Q: How do you involve family out of town in the wedding planning process?

A: There are many ways you can involve your family in the planning who are from out of town! If you want the experience to be personal, such as trying on dresses, FaceTime or Skype always does the trick.

Or if they want to be more involved, you can ask for help in researching and getting quotes from vendors for you to then narrow down, collecting or addressing your invitations, or the best way to get everyone involved is to start group Pinterest boards so that everyone you want involved, can look around and pin their favorite inspiration and ideas to your wedding planning boards!

Wedding Planning Questions Answered

 

Q: How can I make my theme flow at the wedding?

A: When it comes to making your theme flow on your wedding day, simple is always better! Don’t try to over complicate everything but rather, focus on the aspects of the wedding that will work best with your theme. Whether you have a very specific theme or just a color scheme for your wedding day, items such as favors, the wedding décor, and your personal accessories are wonderful ways to tie in your theme without overdoing it! The simple and subtle accents that incorporate your theme or colors are what make your wedding so beautiful and unique!

Check out great wedding planning advice and much more from Jenn at The Overwhelmed Bride and look forward to more expert advice and planning tips in future editions of The Bride Box. Check by often to read more wedding planning questions answered by Jenn.

What are your wedding planning questions? We will get them answered in our next blog post!